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Say Hello And We’ll Video-chat A Bit, No Strings Attached

  • If you’re 35 and up and rain’s your lucky number and your white heart still dreams despite this black world and it would be ok to be just a teensy bit more fabulous and maybe, just maybe, you want a moon-shot at being more fantastic than you have any right to be, say hello

  • After you say hello, I’ll email you within a day or 2 to set up a time for us to video-chat. We might chat for 5 minutes or 75. It won’t cost you anything. I do this all the time - it’s one of the ways I find you. You can be anywhere in the world, any timezone. I’m in Brisbane, Australia. We’ll use Skype or Zoom.

  • I’m a counsellor and I type as INFP in the Myers-Briggs hegemony. Which makes me a Bad Feels Counsellor (the badder the better). If you type as INFP too, bring me your feels and your remembers and your imagines and your wonders and your dreams and say hello. If you’re not sure, say hello anyway and I’ll tell you how to find out.

  • If you’re younger than 35, my experience is you’re usually better off talking to someone else.

  • If you just want to stay in touch at a safe distance, follow me by email here.

  • Top photo credit: Sandis Helvigs

Photo by Mike Wilson

Photo by Mike Wilson

‘Are you sure, Sandra? It didn’t rain on Saturday.’
‘It didn’t rain for you, maybe, but it always rains for me. The sky shatters and rains shards of glass.’
‘That sounds very painful.’
‘No, it sounds beautiful.’

Tablo (Pieces of You)

Is every day a great day for crying?

Are you so sad you lost yourself for so long?

Enough rain, not enough rainbows?

Your brazen, vaulted heart awash in stuck or scared? Say hello

Photo by Matthew Henry

Photo by Matthew Henry

I’m still learning to love the parts of me that no one claps for.

Rudy Francisco

If you’re emo and you know it, clap your hands (clap-clap).

If you want to be loved, you have to make it safe for someone to love you.

And before that can happen, you have to be recognised.

And if you want to be recognised, you have to be vulnerable enough so someone can recognise you.

You never know who would love the person you hide.

It might even be you.

Do you want it to be you? Say hello

Photo by Rob Mulally

Photo by Rob Mulally

I need a life that isn’t just about needing
To escape my life

Robert Polito (Please Refrain from Talking During the Movie)

Does emptiness taste like “more”?

Want to stop holding back?

You may well live a very lengthy life. Do you want to live the width of it as well? Say hello

Photo by Ian Schneider

Photo by Ian Schneider

These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb.

Najwa Zebian

Full feelbarrow? Heavy griefcase? Say hello

Photo by Alessio Lin

Photo by Alessio Lin

The useless days will add up to something. The shitty waitressing jobs. The hours writing in your journal. The long meandering walks. The hours reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries and wondering about sex and God and whether you should shave under your arms or not. These things are your becoming.

Cheryl Strayed (Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar)

Good news: Between the dream-world and the meat-world is a faultless, uncompromised bridge.

Bad news: The bridge is guarded by a Troll Of Unkindness.

Good news: A Spell Of Mighty Kindness will turn the troll into a flock of fly-away ravens, leaving the bridge clear.

Bad news: This spell requires you to be as kind to yourself as you are to others.

Good news: Say hello